WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

topic posted Mon, March 10, 2008 - 7:09 AM by  WhiteLight
The universe is intent on dumping S*#t on you constantly?

You don't know what to do for your child that you feel you have failed miserably?

How to deal with an incurable illness that is slowly killing you?

When the pain is too much to bare?

When you can't see a way out?

And no matter what your spiritual beliefs are you can't seem to find the answers or peace?

What do you DO?
posted by:
WhiteLight
Australia
  • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

    Thu, March 13, 2008 - 8:09 PM
    Ride it out.
    Endure.
    What else?
    You can call on friends. Dance out the anger and the hurt and the violence. Break bottles. Mold clay. Chop wood. Drink wine. Whatever helps, but in the end it comes down to pushing through until you get to the other side, find your peace, realize what you're living for, etc.
  • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

    Tue, March 18, 2008 - 9:28 PM
    have faith that this moment is as it is because the entire universe is as it is. in other words, everything is functioning perfectly as it is, the only thing that is keeping us from seeing this perfection in every moment is our attitude, which in turn is the only thing we have control over. your inner self is your greatest guide. trust it. be it. do everything you can to come to alignment with the state of well being that is your nature. use your intuition and emotions as guidance. if a thought feels bad, then it's leading you away from your inner purpose. if it feels good then it's in alignment with your inner purpose of well being. you already know what to do. everything is working out in your favor. all the time. whether you know it or not.
  • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

    Sat, March 22, 2008 - 3:04 PM
    What do you do when you are 24 years old and you are told the six month old son you are so proud of, so filled with love for and so joyous over has Downs Syndrome. The doctor refers to him as an idiot and tells you to place him in an institution "before you become attached to him" You tell the doctor idiot that you "were attached to him even before he was born." What do you do when the woman you have been married to for ten years tells you she has been having an affair? Her lover was friend of your's and that pregancy she terminated six months ago was his. She wanted to leave you and divorce you but he would not accepted the child or her. She loved him and probably always would. She further tells you that the affair was your fault because she suspected you had fooled around on her. If you had been faithful she would never have gotten involved with him. It was your fault but she would stay with you if you wanted but just get over it, she would. What do you do when your younger brother becomes addicted to drugs and turns you mother against you with lies and deciet. He emptys her bank account but she dies believing you are some evil monster. What do you do when your two year old daughter is dianosed with sever autism and epilespy? What do you do when you are sixty years old and still have the primary responsibility for two adult childern with disabilities?
    What do you do?
    The next right thing, what ever that is.

    or maybe run off to the land down under and move in with a friend from Tribe. that would be an LOL Darlin.
    • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

      Sun, March 23, 2008 - 1:24 AM
      i get your point. but why put so much energy into coming up with so much pain and suffering and then put so little emphasis on the solution?

      ~~~~~~~

      and yes, of course you do the next right thing. you always do your best to make the best of your current situation. that's a given because everyone wishes to be happy and feel good about life.

      shit happens, and it's up to us to cultivate a positive outlook to life in general. ultimately, i believe, the only thing i have control over is my attitude, and my attitude determines how i see things, which in turn determines my experience.

      so by having a good attitude i have a good experience.
      • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

        Sun, March 23, 2008 - 3:27 AM
        I agree with all that is said, i think being mortal makes us a little weaker, the soul is strong but being mortal you get to a point of emotional exhaustion, physical exhaustion, and mental exhaustion and for a little while you need to fall apart to put yourself back together anew and do the next right thing......after over 20yrs of dealing, i am now just completely falling apart, knowing it is temporary, and that my thoughts are a mess, but i know i will pull myself together, I look at it this way if one complete fall apart in over 20yrs is pretty good, i am not due for my next one till i am at least 55 and it can be a midlife crisis.

        We are human and we are allowed to be human and feel, and cry and throw the occasional tantrum at the universe when it gets all to much to bare....it is part of being human and mortal. then put ourselves back together and keep going.

        Kisses
        • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

          Sun, March 23, 2008 - 5:49 AM
          Yes you are in control You can either react or act. If you choose to "act" you remain in control. Maybe my prior message sounded too negative. I am basically happy, I enjoy life greatly. I have my moments but I maintain. I am quite mortal, oh yes. I have died a bit many times. I continue to get up and carry on. My parents were both alcoholics my brother a drug addict. I saw,first hand, the useleness in turning to dispair and attemping to fill life with artifical meaning. No thanks. I like my life real. Pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin.
          I am A fan of the music genre "blues." The Blues is music much of the time about emotional pain. The music is, however, joyous and happy. A way of dealing with emotions. I can change my mood or the effect a mood is having on my by the music I listen to. A cold dreary depressing day can be brightened with a little brandy for the cold and the right music.
          • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

            Sun, March 23, 2008 - 7:08 AM
            I have mastered the art of pretending everything is ok on the outside, no matter what is going on within, i fall apart at home in my room, to everyone else, i am happy and there for them 24/7......
            • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

              Sun, March 23, 2008 - 12:07 PM
              Carry on, it's the English way.
              Persevere
              hod up your end
              or as my Texas Grandparents would have put it.
              "Keep on keepin on."
              • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

                Mon, March 24, 2008 - 12:00 AM
                Thats all we can do is keep on keeping on.......we have no other choice really.
                • Re: WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN?

                  Mon, March 24, 2008 - 11:18 AM
                  yes. if we're not growing we're dying.

                  the more important question would be: are we headed in the right direction?
                  i know there are no right or wrong paths. but a good indicator of wether we're going to feel good or bad about where we're going is our emotions. if we feel joyful, excited and hopeful while on the path then we can be pretty sure we're going to like where we're going. if the process feels in any way bad then we're not going to feel as good as we thought we would when we get there.

                  in short, we can't possibly get to a place of feeling better if we don't enjoy the ride along the way.

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